In The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, Don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offers a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform life to a new experience of true freedom, happiness and love. This is as relevant now as in ancient times.
- Be Impeccable with Your Word — Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using your word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
Be impeccable with yourself and that will reflect in your life and your relationships with others.
- Don’t Take Anything Personally — Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
We take things personally when we agree with what others say. If we didn’t agree, those things would not affect us emotionally. Even if someone yells, gossips about you, harms you or yours, it still is not about you! Their actions and words are based on what they believe in their personal dream.
- Don’t Make Assumptions — Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
When we make assumptions it is because we believe we know what others are thinking and feeling. We forget that our beliefs are just our point of view based on our belief system and personal experiences. Take action and be clear about what you want or do not want.
- Always Do Your Best — Your best is going to change each moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
Doing your best means enjoying the action without expecting a reward. The pleasure comes from doing what you like in life and having fun, not from how much you get paid. Living in the moment and releasing the past helps us to do the best we can in the moment. Have patience with yourself.